Over the years I have seen over and over again, that the ONLY thing standing between a person and their success is the power of their own mind scheming away in the background and undermining their every effort.
Yes I am talking about self limiting beliefs, and the crucial role they play in shaping your future.
What exactly are they?
I’ll give you an example (this are typical comments in the coaching sessions I run)
‘I thought about running a class on a Saturday, but it’s really difficult to get anything going at the weekend’
‘August is always really quiet’
If you say so!
Self limiting beliefs are all those things we tell ourselves that are not based in actual FACT, and often involve projecting negative thoughts about future events. We really do believe these thoughts, and they limit us to expecting, and getting, the same thing over and over again. For example, if you do have a quiet August one year, does that actually mean that August will for evermore be quiet? Only if you keep saying so! (I use this example specifically actually as I managed to turn this around in my own business)
The good news is it is easy to train yourself out of this pattern.
As with any mindful practice, the first step is becoming aware that you are doing this. So, every time you find yourself saying ‘but’ after something. Stop right there. Just stop. Do not say it. Leave the sentence intact without adding the ‘but’ to undermine it.
And any time you find yourself projecting negatively (the quiet in August example above) just stop. Just don’t say it.
Honestly it’s genius!
This simple step - becoming aware, then just stopping yourself stating these self-sabotaging comments. This alone will transform your personal and business growth.
And if you want to take it to the next level.
Sutra 2.33: Vitarka badhane pratipaksha bhavanam
‘When presented with disquieting thoughts or feelings, cultivate an opposite attitude’
In other words, as well as stopping yourself from stating these self limiting beliefs, create an affirmation based upon the opposite.
Using the examples above:
‘I thought about running a class on Saturdays, it is going to be really busy’
‘August is a really great month’
Now I can hear a few of you sucking your teeth at this, but honestly the beauty of affirmations is that just the action of saying them (to yourself or others) is enough at first, whether you believe them or not.
So, in summary, how to conquer self limiting beliefs:
Step one - literally just stop yourself saying these things, often this will mean stopping mid sentence
Step two - say the opposite of what you were going to say.
To your success!